All posts tagged: ootd

Why You Should Wear Lingerie Even In 30 Degree Weather!

Reason 1 It’s sexy and stylish ! Reason 2 A pick me up! Reason 3 Another exciting piece to the collection Reason 4 Nobody has to know! Imagine walking around all regular but you know underneath you Cat Woman and shit……a MOMENT! (unless of course you want to walk around with one sleeve off) Reason 5 Because Quanasia Graham said so and tells us how to style them!!I mean seriously most of the time when we force ourselves to look decent it’s to avoid scaring by passers and or co-workers. It would be a rough life if we always looked how we felt. I’d like to  think I found a balance over the years of looking presentable but also making efforts to look and feel good when no-one else is watching. In the end It’s about a feeling. That brings me to this post.  I love to wear lingerie under my outfits.  Is this a new invention? Nope, but dammit it feels sooo good! Especially the days that feel like they are never ending.  Or …

Steal His Shirt  Season 

Fall  is for stealing Men’s shirt out of bae’s closet. Every Fall I kinda have the same uniform. I pile on top of a turtle neck (like HERE) or a collard shirt and work my way into an outfit that I love. Same shit, different pieces pretty much. The neck fit can be off depending on how big or small bae is. When the neck is oversized even after buttoning I do a nice pull and tuck and boom the shit is a custom fit honey!I did a skirt so I didn’t totally look like I got dressed with the boys! Karla was straight disrespectful when she designed this skirt. I saw it and thought “come on shape!” I love how she make curve complimenting pieces that are timeless and go to  essentials.  And plus she’s probably like the first blogger most of us looked to when we first started blogging. I know me and my friends did and I’m more than proud to genuinely support her new endeavor. Besides layering I’ve been trying to keep a healthy …

This Ain’t A Christmas Ad

….more like a “Twirl into it post”  Sometimes you have to put on your “feel good pieces”. What’s that you ask? Feel good pieces are any items / essentials  that makes you feel good. The ones that make you feel sexy, powerful and unapologetic. For days when I’m leaning towards pitty parties or procrastination I will put on my red lipstick as a pick me up. Or a fuzzy full length  cardigan that makes me feel bad ass because it flows behind me like a cape. Extra I know, but it gets the job done. What’s that job you ask? To look the part and get shit done with a better attitude.  Here’s a few things I do when I’m dragging in the morning. Pull my hair up  Show your face to the world instead of hiding behind your hair. You are forced to have your chin up. Lipstick  It works every time!  There’s no way you are going to pout with done up lips. Who said date night lips can’t be worn in the …

Cheer leading team 

Its that time again; I’m headed to fashion week. Every Fashion week I get the fashion week flu afterwards and always some type of distraction  before hand. Always. This morning while prepping to leave I was in a funky mood. Like a very bad mood which is rare for me. Somebody said something to me that hurt deep. I called my business partner T to vent and while on the phone with him I get a text from a friend telling me I crossed their mind and that they are very proud of my hard work and that I inspire .  I was reading it and ballin. Big fat tears.Talk about timing man. We barely text like that and all of a sudden I get this text that end with “God bless”. Like how rich am I?! To have folks in my life who love me, care for me and send good vibes.  What a feeling.People see the pics every season for fashion week and the publications and think it’s just all glam. It’s sacrifice. …

Life simplified 

Listen….. I’m changing and it’s scary as heck.  I’ve noticed a change in everything lately. My closet for starters. When I tell you I have stripped my closet of a whole lot of things.  I mean it’s a lot. No crisis no trauma, simply detaching myself of things that serves no purpose or brings forth a feeling of necessity. Like I have to love it. Every. Single. Thing. In the past I’ve made excuses to keep clothes, habits and even people. I’ve been cutting out and working on certain habits  that I’m tired of. Some relationships have taken a turn, uncomfortable at first but less baggage and for the better. I’ve started accepting things and situations for what they are. I’m not as accessible to certain things and people as I once was. Oddly enough all of these things were / are happening at once, one after another.My tastebuds are even changing. I don’t care for or  crave the same foods anymore.  So apparent that I caught myself mumbling  to myself the other day  “damn kid, you …

Get it from her Momma!

Hahahaha what  a stupid title, but what am I gonna do leave it blank?  I mean this dress deserves some sort of acknowledgement here.Anyways.  I wore this dress last week to attend South N The City picnic on Governors Island.  As usual I don’t plan my outfits  in advance, so the night before my flight packing got a little something like ” Love the color”, “Less Print” , This could be good incase I find somewhere to go!”.  Nothing set in stone because again dressing is about showing or highlighting an emotion and mood.  There is not telling with me how I’ll feel or what mood I’m in. I purchased this dress from my mothers closet last week while she was getting rid of pieces she wasn’t attached to anymore or the fit was bad.  Message: Declutter Declutter your closets! So on my way to the airport I noticed that this dress was sitting in the back seat and not packed in my carry on which at that point had no room for not even …

Late bloomers… still bloom

Lately I’ve had a lot of conversations with other creatives and seen posts about organic growth and followers(mostly pertaining to Instagram). I see a lot of creatives losing hope due to the lack of numbers and following. I can relate that it’s annoying when you are putting in work but it seems like nothing is working. I’ve had that experience in my craft, in my personal life and it always ended up working out once I changed the mindset and energy .As I mentioned in “Late Bloomer” , I started most things in life later than most or what society says due to being a Mother early. That alone makes me ok to not have what others have or getting there at the same time. It taught me that a different or longer route isn’t a bad thing. Blessings,  like a maze will still find a way/you. Being frustrated about opportunities and numbers or goals is normal.  I think all those feelings are growing pains and the deeper issue and question is “what more can …

No.

I hope you all enjoyed your weekend that I kept calling a  long weekend. This whole fourth of July holiday got me messed up, but really any day off is a good day to reflect, reboot and attack my to do list. Lately my to do list has had a lot of “No’s”incorporated  in it. As I’ve grown as and individual and as a businesswomen I’ve been having to say no more often. I’m a people person and love having those around me be happy. If I can help you better believe that I’ll try. In life and in business that doesn’t seem to always work especially if someone’s happiness will cost me my sanity, health, time and sometimes money. Sometimes No just means “I can’t afford to disappoint you”. If I agree to something that   I know requires time, effort and planning yet I don’t charge my worth or anything at all the outcome will most likely be mediocre or bad and lead to disappointment. Both myself, the brand and or the person …

Unapologetically Ambitious 

I came across a post a few weeks ago that had the words “overly ambitious” in it. It was thought provoking for me for many reasons. Since a kid I’ve been told that I’m too confident, too ambitious and received stares  that pretty much said “what the fuck are you so excited about?!” (I still get them) Ambition and optimism is what has kept me daydreaming as a kid believing that I would be the best dressed lawyer(settled for a associates in Criminal Justice). It’s what I use when I don’t get it right the first 20 times. It keeps me curious and fired up to try again. I don’t have a sobby story for why I had to be this way, just trates from my Mother and Grandfather I guess. When they said they wanted something it was done and was never afraid of messing up. See the thing is compliments and achievements are cool, but it’s our attitudes and mental state that really determines if we get there. If we can’t envision it, …

Start where ya at!

With what and who you have… A Facebook reminder this morning showed me a picture of when I used to take my own photographs. It was lit! I had fun. It wasn’t always perfect but I made the best of all 200 pics lol. I purchased the camera 2 years prior while still at a 9-5. I rolled my eyes every time I walked in, but I was strategic about how one fed the other. My PTO was used to attend New York Fashion Week and to leave early for vending gigs. My thought was “If I’m going to be here why not use what I’m getting to pour into my business?!” It made coming to work a piece of the puzzle and not the end. Sometimes we wait for the perfect time, job, money etc before we start charging towards our goals, but it’s damaging more than anything. If you’ve always wanted to blog start now! Download WordPress on your phone and blog through there if a laptop isn’t available. Always wanted to get …