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I’m not a politician, sorry.

I’d like to think I came a long way from the overly blunt, rude teenager that I was years and years ago. 16 to be exact. You become wiser, mature and a bit more thoughtful and realize that words hurt and not everything you think of should roll off your tongue. Cool. The adulting process has taught me that while I should think before I react, I still need to be honest with myself and others. What I thought at times was just “letting it go” really said to others “It’s okay to treat me this way”. Even what I choose to listen to says a lot. I.e everybody’s issues or gossip which leaves me drained and distracted from what I have to do. In the recent months I’ve had to address and cut communication with those who only reach out for a favor, promote something or throw their problems at me without a care on how I’m doing. Like WTF do I look like ? One of the girls from Erykah Badu’s “bag Lady …

You have nothing to wear because you don’t experiment!!!

A few weeks ago I had a speaking engagement and was trying on outfits the hour prior. My daughter walks in and says “you’re wearing that shirt? I feel like you wear it a lot” Me: yes it’s mine, I bought it to wear it. Style is not about how much you have. It’s what you do with it and how it makes you feel! Oh and You’re grounded!!!!!!! (My daughter was referring to this top) The thing is she’s 15 with the same mentality that a lot of my clients have. There is no point in having clothing that you won’t use to maximize your wardrobe. If repeating is not your thing then cool, but most people would like to but don’t know how.The trick to getting the most use is experimenting and taking risks. We tend to wear the same pieces the same way. Each time you go to pull that piece challenge yourself to wear it differently. Even if it’s just a different top or shoes etc. This way you are building …

#NewYorkCoffeeTalk ft. Harrison T. Crite

Last weekend as you may have seen on my social media, I had my second #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year. This months topic was “Hustle” w/ International Stylist Harrison T. Crite. Looking the part is always easy, but what you do well, consistently when nobody is watching is what determines your hustle or lack there of. Watching Harrison’s growth and consistency, there was no doubt that he was the best person to host this months topic!“I’ve never been afraid to try something new “ – Harrison Crite Like there are fly people all over NY, but honnnnney you just know when a NYCT attendee walks through the door. Slayage every single time! There was more note pads and note taking than social media coverage. So much gems being dropped that you just had to be there to absorb it all. Harrison shared how he got started in the industry, tips for creating multiple streams of income and and how it was important to have “Faith Over Fear!”. Basically it was a creatives church on a Saturday.So …

Gratitude.

December was long. I mourned, rested, laid in bed…A lot. This rolled over into January and then I reminded myself that 1. I have the right to take as much time as I need. 2. You may never get over loss. 3. Life still continues, the sun still rises and sets even when we are still. 4. Through loss you gain new perspective. 5. Healing sometimes means moving again and showing gratitude for what we do have. Gratitude eats away at pity and pain.I had my 2nd #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year this past weekend and it was all I needed. New faces, old faces, hugs, fashion and good energy all balled up in our little reserved area. A Forever high! A reminder of why I started and will elevate the series.I’ve been adulting when it’s comes to traveling and packing. Meaning I fly with one carry on, 3 footwear option and 6-7 pieces of clothing. That’s a big deal for someone who usually packs like a crazy person. If you’re new to following me- I …

#NewYorkCoffeeTalk Fashion & Finance Ft. Micaéla Verrelien

December 9th I hosted the last #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year on Fashion & Finance  Ft. Micaela Verrelien.  While having a telephone convo Micaela mentioned how “some creatives still don’t know what an EIN is”.  I thought wow, we have to do a coffee talk on Fashion & Finance.  It’s easy to share places to shop and how to look, but being financially fit is so much more important.    Micaéla who is a an accountant   by day deals with numbers, budgeting and invoicing all day so she was the perfect host to help us set the tone for 2018! You know wasn’t no snow about to stop NY creatives from linking up.  Micaéla gave us tips on billing,contracts and the types of business accounts we can have. Other attendees shared their experience and what has worked for them.  So informative and so exciting to hear about current businesses and hustles and the ventures that are to come .               Photography by : Jennelle Gordon Follow her Instagram for …

Pull. It. Together.

This is me feeling better after falling off of my to do list and not cooking for like I don’t know 4-5 days. My eviction date for this slump built of many things and pulling it together was Sunday. Colds, asthma episodes, laundry to do and all……I needed to pull it together .From my own experience, telling myself I must get out of a slump right away only makes things worse. Since I knew the eviction date was the next day, I went to bed early, woke up early Sunday and did all the morning chores. Stopped at Barnes & Noble for some good reads and spent the rest of the day creating content. Ready for another intentional day and week. Oh and with a new do I been rocking since Thanksgiving. Check out what I worked on and my next event HERE! Sweatshirt: TjMaxx stores(recent) Neck piece: Aldo’s accessories(old) Jeans: Gstar Men’s jeans (old) Booties: Pour La Victoire at TjMaxx(recent) Share This:

You’re inspired now what?

You’re inspired, now what? You ever read that self help book or the one your Instagram girlfriend is raving about and feel so empowered? Ready to take on the world and all. Ideas coming at maximum speed barely allowing you time to act on it? I’m over just being inspired. If I got even a penny for every dope idea I had I’d be rich. In the last year and even recently I just grew tired of just being inspired without any action or plan to follow suit. I found that being inspired and hours scrolling down social media became another form of procrastination . I of course convinced myself that I was killing two birds- supporting and being inspired. I’d spend hours day dreaming and floating on “what if’s”. Recently I started timing how much time I spent on the internet and set out time to intentionally plan only so that my ideas didn’t just remain ideas or graduate to fantasies. People constantly ask “How do you do it with 2 kids?!” Truth is …

Mommy Mascot

Its 30 degrees now what?! Those damn pity parties I tell ya. If there’s a popular season for them it’s definitely Winter(technically Fall but whatevs). It’s cold, I don’t want to move, think or do anything for that matter, BUT us Moms don’t have that choice. Actually we do, but it would be a negative domino effect. It’s sucks at times yet it’s an overall blessing that we set the tone for the home and kids. If we are happy so are they. If we are sad and down they already pick up that vibe. My weather app said 30 degrees this morning and you would have thought yesterday was August or something. Straight drama! I dragged out of bed and did the kids morning routine like a grumpy babysitter. While driving the kids to the bus stop my daughter asked while laughing “why you so mad?!” I replied while also breaking into a laugh “Cause I’m cold” . Like how stupid is that answer? It took for me to say it out loud just …

Why You Should Wear Lingerie Even In 30 Degree Weather!

Reason 1 It’s sexy and stylish ! Reason 2 A pick me up! Reason 3 Another exciting piece to the collection Reason 4 Nobody has to know! Imagine walking around all regular but you know underneath you Cat Woman and shit……a MOMENT! (unless of course you want to walk around with one sleeve off) Reason 5 Because Quanasia Graham said so and tells us how to style them!!I mean seriously most of the time when we force ourselves to look decent it’s to avoid scaring by passers and or co-workers. It would be a rough life if we always looked how we felt. I’d like to  think I found a balance over the years of looking presentable but also making efforts to look and feel good when no-one else is watching. In the end It’s about a feeling. That brings me to this post.  I love to wear lingerie under my outfits.  Is this a new invention? Nope, but dammit it feels sooo good! Especially the days that feel like they are never ending.  Or …