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Cheer leading team 

Its that time again; I’m headed to fashion week. Every Fashion week I get the fashion week flu afterwards and always some type of distraction  before hand. Always. This morning while prepping to leave I was in a funky mood. Like a very bad mood which is rare for me. Somebody said something to me that hurt deep. I called my business partner T to vent and while on the phone with him I get a text from a friend telling me I crossed their mind and that they are very proud of my hard work and that I inspire .  I was reading it and ballin. Big fat tears.Talk about timing man. We barely text like that and all of a sudden I get this text that end with “God bless”. Like how rich am I?! To have folks in my life who love me, care for me and send good vibes.  What a feeling.People see the pics every season for fashion week and the publications and think it’s just all glam. It’s sacrifice. …

Life simplified 

Listen….. I’m changing and it’s scary as heck.  I’ve noticed a change in everything lately. My closet for starters. When I tell you I have stripped my closet of a whole lot of things.  I mean it’s a lot. No crisis no trauma, simply detaching myself of things that serves no purpose or brings forth a feeling of necessity. Like I have to love it. Every. Single. Thing. In the past I’ve made excuses to keep clothes, habits and even people. I’ve been cutting out and working on certain habits  that I’m tired of. Some relationships have taken a turn, uncomfortable at first but less baggage and for the better. I’ve started accepting things and situations for what they are. I’m not as accessible to certain things and people as I once was. Oddly enough all of these things were / are happening at once, one after another.My tastebuds are even changing. I don’t care for or  crave the same foods anymore.  So apparent that I caught myself mumbling  to myself the other day  “damn kid, you …

Unapologetic Mom Tour

Phone call  with 15 year old while I’m LA 15 year old: Mommie! When are you coming back? Me: Kid, I love you guys enough to know when to take a break! See you soon I love my family, but I know when I’m need of a vacation. Juggling a family, werk and relationships is a full time job. The last few months I’ve been working a lot of hours which doesn’t include a cubical and a heater underneath my desk that I can rest my feet. Nope! Racks on racks on racks models shopping and returns. *Repeat!* I love every minute of it because I’m living my dream, but when your body says take a second, you take a second. With any blessing comes cons and I’m grateful that mine isn’t enough to make me quit. The Mom tour started in LA, because 1) I always wanted to visit and do research. 2)It wasn’t home (Massachusetts). I needed time to regroup and reflect in a different space while still putting in a little werk. …

To Pitch, Pray or Pride?

It’s not easy out here in these creative streets. Especially when pitching and asking for help is involved. Truth is we, me, you can’t do it all by ourselves.  There’s a overprotective safety net when you have a craft or a brand. You start off as the creators, investors, assistant, tech and all. And for a while it’s cool cause what won’t you do  for what you love right?  After a while you reach a wall of endless duties  and or obstacles that is ever so apparent that “YOU NEED HELP”. Sometimes help as creatives mean a sponsor, an assistant, a baton in your field in order to kick down and enter the next door. For some asking and pitching is easy. For others like myself it can be a struggle. Let me start off with the fact that I was raised by a Woman who made single motherhood look effortless and still provided all that we needed by working for it. I reference her a lot when I’m faced with obstacles, but I also …

Get it from her Momma!

Hahahaha what  a stupid title, but what am I gonna do leave it blank?  I mean this dress deserves some sort of acknowledgement here.Anyways.  I wore this dress last week to attend South N The City picnic on Governors Island.  As usual I don’t plan my outfits  in advance, so the night before my flight packing got a little something like ” Love the color”, “Less Print” , This could be good incase I find somewhere to go!”.  Nothing set in stone because again dressing is about showing or highlighting an emotion and mood.  There is not telling with me how I’ll feel or what mood I’m in. I purchased this dress from my mothers closet last week while she was getting rid of pieces she wasn’t attached to anymore or the fit was bad.  Message: Declutter Declutter your closets! So on my way to the airport I noticed that this dress was sitting in the back seat and not packed in my carry on which at that point had no room for not even …

Late bloomers… still bloom

Lately I’ve had a lot of conversations with other creatives and seen posts about organic growth and followers(mostly pertaining to Instagram). I see a lot of creatives losing hope due to the lack of numbers and following. I can relate that it’s annoying when you are putting in work but it seems like nothing is working. I’ve had that experience in my craft, in my personal life and it always ended up working out once I changed the mindset and energy .As I mentioned in “Late Bloomer” , I started most things in life later than most or what society says due to being a Mother early. That alone makes me ok to not have what others have or getting there at the same time. It taught me that a different or longer route isn’t a bad thing. Blessings,  like a maze will still find a way/you. Being frustrated about opportunities and numbers or goals is normal.  I think all those feelings are growing pains and the deeper issue and question is “what more can …

No.

I hope you all enjoyed your weekend that I kept calling a  long weekend. This whole fourth of July holiday got me messed up, but really any day off is a good day to reflect, reboot and attack my to do list. Lately my to do list has had a lot of “No’s”incorporated  in it. As I’ve grown as and individual and as a businesswomen I’ve been having to say no more often. I’m a people person and love having those around me be happy. If I can help you better believe that I’ll try. In life and in business that doesn’t seem to always work especially if someone’s happiness will cost me my sanity, health, time and sometimes money. Sometimes No just means “I can’t afford to disappoint you”. If I agree to something that   I know requires time, effort and planning yet I don’t charge my worth or anything at all the outcome will most likely be mediocre or bad and lead to disappointment. Both myself, the brand and or the person …

Unapologetically Ambitious 

I came across a post a few weeks ago that had the words “overly ambitious” in it. It was thought provoking for me for many reasons. Since a kid I’ve been told that I’m too confident, too ambitious and received stares  that pretty much said “what the fuck are you so excited about?!” (I still get them) Ambition and optimism is what has kept me daydreaming as a kid believing that I would be the best dressed lawyer(settled for a associates in Criminal Justice). It’s what I use when I don’t get it right the first 20 times. It keeps me curious and fired up to try again. I don’t have a sobby story for why I had to be this way, just trates from my Mother and Grandfather I guess. When they said they wanted something it was done and was never afraid of messing up. See the thing is compliments and achievements are cool, but it’s our attitudes and mental state that really determines if we get there. If we can’t envision it, …

Start where ya at!

With what and who you have… A Facebook reminder this morning showed me a picture of when I used to take my own photographs. It was lit! I had fun. It wasn’t always perfect but I made the best of all 200 pics lol. I purchased the camera 2 years prior while still at a 9-5. I rolled my eyes every time I walked in, but I was strategic about how one fed the other. My PTO was used to attend New York Fashion Week and to leave early for vending gigs. My thought was “If I’m going to be here why not use what I’m getting to pour into my business?!” It made coming to work a piece of the puzzle and not the end. Sometimes we wait for the perfect time, job, money etc before we start charging towards our goals, but it’s damaging more than anything. If you’ve always wanted to blog start now! Download WordPress on your phone and blog through there if a laptop isn’t available. Always wanted to get …

Boston Calling Recap

Happy Tuesday I mean Wednesday 😩😩 This short week got me all messed up. Anywho let’s take it back to last Friday when Mother Nature had all sorts of mood swings and couldn’t decide if we behaved enough for some sunshine or better yet a dry day. She went left and killed us with rain, but who cares when you get to See Chance The Rapper?!!!! Like his performance was chill giving, soul filled and thought provoking. Like I never cared for another performer like this  besides Beres Hammond.  The kid is going to be a legend. How many rappers ask “How many of y’all want to go to heaven ?” And ask twice because “some of y’all didn’t answer truthfully” that’s dope! Grown Men were in the crown harmonizing with Chance and his group word. For. Word.  This performance was so on time for me for so many reasons. One because I’ve been working not stop for like two months straight and needed some self care time. Second because as I’m in transition phases …