Top: New Zara
Boots : New Zara(Currently on sale in stores)
Pants: old Zara buy
waist beads: www.shopiccon.com
Top: New Zara
Boots : New Zara(Currently on sale in stores)
Pants: old Zara buy
waist beads: www.shopiccon.com
It’s not hard to tell that my first fashion love is a little 80’s 40’s flair. Give me exaggerating sleeves, tailored bodice and a piece that give Drammma darling! If you’ve been following me for a while you know that I was crazy obsessed with thrifting. The love never died, I just got really booked and left with little time to thrift the last two years. Good problem to have financially, but boring and less interesting wardrobe wise. Fast fashion produce cheap, but affordable quality and the designer pieces like Jacquemus is a mortgage that I can’t afford unless I got a hook up(don’t do those cause if I can’t afford it without you its a dependent situation and I don’t like asking for shit) or snag at an end of the year sale.Over the last couple of months I’ve noticed when cleaning out my closet that the things that are lasting are my vintage and designer finds. Majority of the things I’m throwing out are H&M and Zara things. I still shop there but very selective on what I’m buying and being realistic about my expectations from it. Is it a must have? How good is this quality? Should I just save up a little longer and buy the original with better quality? Stuff like that. H&M is a hit or miss now a days. 12-13 years ago the quality was way better. Every once in a while I’ll purchase something like these jeans that were made to last(wear them once a week).
So recently I’ve been making time to go thrifting because I’m missing my Angela from “Who’s The Boss” blazers, fun bold colors and exaggerated sleeves.I scored this blazer at the Salvation Army for……*Drummm rolllll* $4.99 and then half off cause it was 50% off of all yellow and green tags. This was a yellow tag baby! 🤸🏾♀️🤸🏾♀️😂. Like this quality is amazing and it cost what I would pay for a bag of large Doritos (maybe even cheaper). I’m looking forward to more finds and spending my money on designer shoes on sale(the quality really is worth the coins) . If you’re patient enough to thrift this season look for Levis denim, wind breaker 90’s jackets, structured blazers, trench coats and oversized denim jackets. All of these are currently “trending” so get your shopping on.
It seems like Friday’s lately involves my third grader and his school. Last week I woke up late and had to drive him to school. This Friday he tells me that he can wear the color green. I get a call from my daughter this morning telling me all the kids from his school have their uniforms on and no green anything. Wooosah
So now I have to take my extra ass to the school to bring him his uniform because umm you don’t get a free pass because you “thought you heard” that green is he theme. I’m thinking about wearing this. Cause it’s casual Friday soooo why not?!
this is going to be me waiting at the front desk with his uniform like hey son! 😂😂👋🏾
If you have children I pray you can laugh at the shenanigans like I’ve been doing for my sanity or else I’ll be picking up my dreadlocks every step. If you don’t still laugh at something today because life’s too damn good not to.
Enjoy your weekends!
Jeans- old H&M
Coat- Bobby From Boston
Mules – Tibi- no longer available
Track: Raekwon Ft. Method Man “Ice Cream” Thrifter Fur
H&M turtle neck
I’d like to think I came a long way from the overly blunt, rude teenager that I was years and years ago. 16 to be exact. You become wiser, mature and a bit more thoughtful and realize that words hurt and not everything you think of should roll off your tongue. Cool. The adulting process has taught me that while I should think before I react, I still need to be honest with myself and others. What I thought at times was just “letting it go” really said to others “It’s okay to treat me this way”. Even what I choose to listen to says a lot. I.e everybody’s issues or gossip which leaves me drained and distracted from what I have to do.
In the recent months I’ve had to address and cut communication with those who only reach out for a favor, promote something or throw their problems at me without a care on how I’m doing. Like WTF do I look like ? One of the girls from Erykah Badu’s “bag Lady video?! Nah
I don’t like to play victim so I had to ask myself why are people comfortable to call you with mess, try and use you as a Rolodex. The answer was cause I let them and take part. So I had to start speaking up which believe it or not for a blabber mouth like me was uncomfortable. When we care about relationships and want to save it we will bite our tongues and hold our feelings back for the sake of an argument. Harboring all these feelings isn’t doing anything good for my health or that relationship for that matter.
I’ve taken this approach with even business partnerships and personal life. No you don’t have to be nasty to follow up on an invoice, to disagree with a contract or to tell a friend about something that’s bothering you.
Just practicing this consistently when needed (because some things aren’t worth my breath) has helped me so much. It’s like decluttering and cleansing for the soul. I’ve learned that self care is deeper than my mani, pedi and hair dos. Sometimes it requires being uncomfortable, putting yourself first and being brutally honest. Like I’m not a politician so you gon get this honesty even if it means making you uncomfortable .
Anybody else struggle with having to address unhealthy relationships?
Sleeveless jacket- My mother gifted me from a local boutique
Vintage Levis jeans – Thrifted
Feather Mules- Tibi (no longer available bit have great sales) this
A few weeks ago I had a speaking engagement and was trying on outfits the hour prior. My daughter walks in and says “you’re wearing that shirt? I feel like you wear it a lot”
Me: yes it’s mine, I bought it to wear it. Style is not about how much you have. It’s what you do with it and how it makes you feel! Oh and You’re grounded!!!!!!!
(My daughter was referring to this top) The thing is she’s 15 with the same mentality that a lot of my clients have. There is no point in having clothing that you won’t use to maximize your wardrobe. If repeating is not your thing then cool, but most people would like to but don’t know how.The trick to getting the most use is experimenting and taking risks. We tend to wear the same pieces the same way. Each time you go to pull that piece challenge yourself to wear it differently. Even if it’s just a different top or shoes etc. This way you are building up your confidence to getting out of your comfort zone while maximizing your wardrobe! A win.
This Line By K skirt is one of those closet essentials that’s going to work all seasons and work with all body types!
I’m going to have a mini series breaking down why you have nothing to wear. The first few will be about repeating pieces and taking risks!
Leave me any questions you have on this part of it! Anybody else repeat the heck out of their clothes?
Tjmaxx earrings, vintage shirt (was under $5) 7 years old
H&M turtleneck , Beriqisu , Pour La Victoire boots from TJ Maxx , sock from Marshalls
H&M men’s shirt , vintage coat from Bobby From Boston
Last weekend as you may have seen on my social media, I had my second #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year. This months topic was “Hustle” w/ International Stylist Harrison T. Crite. Looking the part is always easy, but what you do well, consistently when nobody is watching is what determines your hustle or lack there of. Watching Harrison’s growth and consistency, there was no doubt that he was the best person to host this months topic!“I’ve never been afraid to try something new “ – Harrison Crite
Like there are fly people all over NY, but honnnnney you just know when a NYCT attendee walks through the door. Slayage every single time!
There was more note pads and note taking than social media coverage. So much gems being dropped that you just had to be there to absorb it all. Harrison shared how he got started in the industry, tips for creating multiple streams of income and and how it was important to have “Faith Over Fear!”. Basically it was a creatives church on a Saturday.So much style, magic and creativity in our reserved corner that the talk went over. The smiles, the connections and building reminded me why I started this series in the first place.
Coffee Talk will be continuing in the Spring! I will post new dates then:
Photographer: Rose. L
December was long. I mourned, rested, laid in bed…A lot. This rolled over into January and then I reminded myself that
1. I have the right to take as much time as I need.
2. You may never get over loss.
3. Life still continues, the sun still rises and sets even when we are still.
4. Through loss you gain new perspective.
5. Healing sometimes means moving again and showing gratitude for what we do have. Gratitude eats away at pity and pain.I had my 2nd #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year this past weekend and it was all I needed. New faces, old faces, hugs, fashion and good energy all balled up in our little reserved area. A Forever high! A reminder of why I started and will elevate the series.I’ve been adulting when it’s comes to traveling and packing. Meaning I fly with one carry on, 3 footwear option and 6-7 pieces of clothing. That’s a big deal for someone who usually packs like a crazy person. If you’re new to following me- I don’t pre pick outfits. Packing is more like grab items that matches my current mood and include a top and bottom. Outfit
The morning of Coffee Talk I give myself some time to reflect, prepare for the day and then pick an outfit on the spot. It always works. The crazy and procrastinator in me wouldn’t have it any other way!
Tee shirt- Walmart
Vintage Bustier- thrifted
Pour La Victoire Boots- Local T.J Maxx
Socks- The Sock Shack
Photographer : Rose L.
December 9th I hosted the last #NewYorkCoffeeTalk of the year on Fashion & Finance Ft. Micaela Verrelien. While having a telephone convo Micaela mentioned how “some creatives still don’t know what an EIN is”. I thought wow, we have to do a coffee talk on Fashion & Finance. It’s easy to share places to shop and how to look, but being financially fit is so much more important. Micaéla who is a an accountant by day deals with numbers, budgeting and invoicing all day so she was the perfect host to help us set the tone for 2018!
You know wasn’t no snow about to stop NY creatives from linking up. Micaéla gave us tips on billing,contracts and the types of business accounts we can have. Other attendees shared their experience and what has worked for them. So informative and so exciting to hear about current businesses and hustles and the ventures that are to come .
Photography by : Jennelle Gordon
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Our Sponsor for this Coffee Talk was First Aid Financial
An Insurance Company that aids in Dependent Care Planning, Retirement Planning Solutions and Life Insurance . We learned so much more about Life insurance outside of what some already knew,the basic information and myths that some of us had about it. Follow their business page Here to learn more about the services provided and to contact one of their reps to get started!
This is me feeling better after falling off of my to do list and not cooking for like I don’t know 4-5 days. My eviction date for this slump built of many things and pulling it together was Sunday. Colds, asthma episodes, laundry to do and all……I needed to pull it together .From my own experience, telling myself I must get out of a slump right away only makes things worse. Since I knew the eviction date was the next day, I went to bed early, woke up early Sunday and did all the morning chores. Stopped at Barnes & Noble for some good reads and spent the rest of the day creating content.
Ready for another intentional day and week. Oh and with a new do I been rocking since Thanksgiving.
Check out what I worked on and my next event HERE!
Sweatshirt: TjMaxx stores(recent)
Neck piece: Aldo’s accessories(old)
Jeans: Gstar Men’s jeans (old)
Booties: Pour La Victoire at TjMaxx(recent)