With what and who you have…
A Facebook reminder this morning showed me a picture of when I used to take my own photographs. It was lit! I had fun. It wasn’t always perfect but I made the best of all 200 pics lol. I purchased the camera 2 years prior while still at a 9-5. I rolled my eyes every time I walked in, but I was strategic about how one fed the other. My PTO was used to attend New York Fashion Week and to leave early for vending gigs. My thought was “If I’m going to be here why not use what I’m getting to pour into my business?!” It made coming to work a piece of the puzzle and not the end.
Sometimes we wait for the perfect time, job, money etc before we start charging towards our goals, but it’s damaging more than anything. If you’ve always wanted to blog start now! Download WordPress on your phone and blog through there if a laptop isn’t available. Always wanted to get a diploma but have kids start going to school at night part time(I did it from 23-25)
Want to be a designer? Buy a sewing machine and some patterns. Today! Like just start! With what and who you have.
I write this with new goals and new fears(yes because new heights and challenges are always uncomfortable at first) so I’m starting new things today where and with what I have.
Happy Tuesday I mean Wednesday 😩😩
This short week got me all messed up. Anywho let’s take it back to last Friday when Mother Nature had all sorts of mood swings and couldn’t decide if we behaved enough for some sunshine or better yet a dry day. She went left and killed us with rain, but who cares when you get to See Chance The Rapper?!!!! Like his performance was chill giving, soul filled and thought provoking. Like I never cared for another performer like this besides Beres Hammond. The kid is going to be a legend.
How many rappers ask “How many of y’all want to go to heaven ?” And ask twice because “some of y’all didn’t answer truthfully” that’s dope! Grown Men were in the crown harmonizing with Chance and his group word. For. Word. This performance was so on time for me for so many reasons. One because I’ve been working not stop for like two months straight and needed some self care time. Second because as I’m in transition phases this performance reminds me that it’s all about purpose always and serving the people. A great reminder that platforms are meant to inspire and not pollute. I never downloaded not one song of his prior to the festival , just radio and catching him while he won his Grammy(s). Other than that it was “hmm nice songs”. After the performance and him taking time to say “I’m sorry let me introduce myself” sealed the deal for me. Got home and purchased his album on like 3. Somethin seconds 😩😂😂I don’t care for hype, but character x talent will do it for me.
My photographer and I D Irvin both agreed this Man was the icing on the cake for our time at the festival. I left full and ready to tackle this week and create, create, create.
Check out my recap video here for a bit of my weekend.
Outfit #1 details
Dress from Nigeria
Thrifted belt and camouflage jacket
Guess booties from Marshalls
Outfit #2 details Here
Picture and video : D Irvin
Yesterday was Day 2 of Boston Calling and it was a super chill day and the vibes were good. I’m certain that Mother Nature bringing us sun was one of the reasons. Barely any room to walk, I tip toed and zigzagged around napping, laying and eating folks on the ground. A good problem to have seeing that the day before laying down wasn’t even an option.
I set out to capture some street style, ask questions and head out, but I ended up having genuine and purposeful convos with folks and made that priority over exchanging an IG or email. Of course that was done once or twice, but the point is sometimes you set out for one thing and end up getting something totally left and heart filling at that. I’d like to speak for everyone there and say that we were being medicated. Music does something to the soul that indescribable and only a music lover can non verbally understand. In theses last two days, not once was there a fight or a time that I didn’t feel safe. The overall view and vibe looked like what 70’s festivals vibes would have been made of. Care free dancing , wide eye smiles and Belly holding laughs. Like so so good. Exactly what my soul needed after a non stop work week.
The festival is broken up into stages: Green stage, blue and red. On Day 1 my photographer D and I was just glued to Green and Red. Migos came on and had us turnt and then we stayed until Chance The Rapper came on( still speechless). Yesterday D suggested trying out the blue stage. We found Kenny Brown performing and let’s just say that was a world of its own. A two minute walk took us from country music to hip hop. Folks dabbin and cranked AF. The energy so good we just sat and chilled there until Majid Jordan came on. First time hearing his music and now a new music follow for me! Boston Calling has been like school orientation with new introductions to artist and different genres in a concert form. I wouldn’t have looked up that many artist on my own for no reason, you know?Even though it was a two hour stop in, D and I still spotted and stopped a few street style babes like so…
“I don’t have an Instagram” I high fived that 🙌🏾Hi, can you mail me these overalls girl?! Crazy about the mustard and red lip🎯❤️Romper mami 💅🏼 YSL Papi 🎩 Supreme Team
Now I’m off to have breakfast with my family before heading to day 3 which I’m excited about! Follow along on my Instagram Story.
Chanel vintage silk blouse
Vintage boots( like so damn good right?!)
Marilyn Monroe glasses from Marshalls
Photography: D Irvin Photography
Can I just say that yesterday was like the best day ever?! The best. I had never been to Boston Calling until they this year. I was absolutely bummed that Solange didn’t make it , but there was so much more to look forward to and boy was it lit! I will go deeper into the performers in my personal style post. What I love the most is that the festival is three days and you can buy tickets separately for each day…. even at the gate! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
You know I couldn’t attend without covering fashion. So yesterday felt like New York Fashion Week again with me approaching people to ask permission to take their pics. Everyone was so sweet and agreed….Dope vibe dope style. It lives here in Boston …👇🏾
Loved this bomber and how she effortlessly layed the cross body bag. @sal.florentina
Yes to all of these colors and the pigtail bun. @shell.yahHow cute is this Coachella Mami @JamieptranIn Living color @flwrsandfernsShe came to slay and stay dry! @juliaathy🦄 eyesCool kid.“I’m from New York” 😎 @agustinagaviola
Me and this Hottie shared an uber. Love the whole get up.
Aren’t they poppin?!
Stay tuned for tomorrow’s recap of today and check out my Instagram story for performance clips! Hurry before it expires.
I heard gingham is “trending” aka they pulled it out the classic archives. Here’s the thing… it’s at least the 5th or 6th time it’s been re-trending since I was like 8/9 years old. How do I remember ? Because my aunt who was my fashion icon had a beautiful flowy gingham red dress that was off the shoulder. That was my intro to gingham and since then have been a fave. BUT let’s talk about quality because some prints are just plain ugly and very cheap looking.
Here’s my aunt in “94”with the dress!! She just sent it.(I never forget a dope outfit!)
I love you toooo much to let you go and pick up just any kind so I picked a few faves that are classic and will live past the “trend season”. When you shop with a purpose there is no going out of style.
These two pics are styled by me from an event I had with Shake Shack Newbury called “Shakes & Silhouettes” last month. *pic credentials on IG*
Styled this gingham off the shoulder top from Marshalls with a lace gold top from Ash & Rose . Pants from pajama section in Marshalls. Breaking rules !
So if I were you I’d buy these
Zara gets it👇🏾
This to die for skirt
Off the shoulder realness
Take me on a picnic chic
Dress me in gingham
And Asos not playing either!☄️
A side of peplum please
So which one are you getting ?
“My momma told me boy make a decision right now I gotta keep a tunnel vision”~ Kodak Black
The goal is to do it all at the same damn time. Says the princess in the fairytale being fed grapes with her foot up with no kids lol. When I’m killing it in one area another area is neglected at least a little bit. I have been booked with styling gigs and had to pick my head back up to touch up on other things in life. Like the gym, gaining weight(yes because my butt is getting small from working a lot and not eating enough.) “I like nice curves and I cannot lie”😂😂👌🏾🙌🏾😀
When I think of tunnel vision I think about my college days when I was working a full time job and getting good grades and starting a side business. Those days remind me that I got comfortable because I can do wayyy more with a little more planning and focus. We need a reminder sometimes.So anywho I’ve been thinking about tunnel vision and how targeting a few new goals at the same pace will pay off and work wonders. I also remind myself that falling a few times while carrying all of them is ok. I truly believe that it’s more attitude than anything. If we beat ourselves up we can’t get past failing and leave no room for energy and action. So I’m looking forward to trying, failing, conquering, repeat. I’ve never not gotten something I put 100% in so leggo!
Enough about me. How have you been? Are you currently targeting any goals ? How?
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Oh and if you’re in Boston join me this Saturday 5/13/17 for #BostonCoffeeTalk at Caffe Nero Jamaica Plain 10am-12pm
Outfit: vintage tee and jacket
H&M jeans (last year buy)
Kate Spade shoes(2016)
If you know anything about me or follow my Instagram you know that after Faith, Family and Fashion comes food! It’s comfort for the soul and when made with love it’s bragging worthy.
The only burgers I’ve had the last few years before Shake Shack were homemade ones that my mother makes. The ones that when you bite into actually taste like meat and not some weird substance that’s been refrozen for decades. I finally tried one outside of home for the first time 2 weeks ago with my business partner and loved it! All I needed to hear was 100% beef to convince me to bite. And let’s be honest, an exposed kitchen says “We are confident in our food and service”
I’m a believer of the motto “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”, so I had the ShackMeister again! This mouth watering burger is made with 100% angus beef and topped with seasoned shallots and Shack Sauce. Just right and not too messy(hate a disruptive burger).
Convinced my friend to get the double version. No regrets!
Drum roll….. this baby on the left is loaded fries with bacon bits, cheese and and barbecue sauce. Like seriously this thing is even good cold. I brought some home to my kids who didn’t even bother warming it up. 😂🙌🏾
This time around I skipped the tasty white wine for a milkshake.
Stay with me here we are still talking Shake Shack! Downstairs is a whole different atmosphere. Two HDTV’s and games for a real chill vibe. This private room is the newest hidden treasure on Newbury st.
The exposed brick walls set the perfect mood for social gatherings and even kids parties. Had I known about this in January I would have rented it for my sons birthday party.
Dope artwork sourced from Artist For Humanity and Vanilla milkshake for the win!
If you don’t make it in soon to check the space , you should definitely look forward to my fashion meet up event “Shakes & Silhouette”! Think Spring fashion and networking. More details coming in the next post!
Post sponsored by Shake Shack all opinions and thoughts are my own.
Zainab Sumu hoodie
Vintage fatigue jacket and fur coat
Kate spade heels
The last time I was crazy about a watch or cared for one was in the 4th grade. I remember the details and colors so vividly. It was a Mickey Mouse gold trim face watch with a brown leather band. As a child I took notice that my mother always wore a watch and would never leave home without it. From that time I always looked at a watch like a statement piece. It was an accessory that I associated with sophistication /businessman. Fast forward to today and I finally found a watch that I actually care for and like. When Jord Watches sent me a link to their site and collection I was like 😱😍(seriously!). In a world of rose gold and blinged out watches, this brand definitely got my attention and kept it. Unique, classic and statement making watches. As if the designs weren’t good enough, the packaging was also extra ordinary and icing on the cake. Presentation to me is a summary of the brand and vision. Sold!
In the 20 plus years since losing that Mickey Mouse watch I never cared for a watch until now. I instantly shared the link with my business partner and immediate family. If it’s good I’m sharing. You know that. Your personal style should show even in your accessories because it will either compliment or kill your outfit.
I chose this big face watch for a masculine feel. I have a small wrist so anything smaller would have felt too safe and “cute”. This will be a watch that I can wear to work on set as well as to a casual dinner date or a night of networking or mingling with friends. Because it’s wood, it’s a perfect transitional piece for all seasons. It pretty much goes with all palettes.
Here I’m wearing the Frankie Series Dark Sandalwood & Emerald Women’s watch to run errands and meeting with a potential client . Trust you will be seeing this baby in future post.
See for yourself and check out their women’s watches here
Men’s watches here
Because it’s never to late or early in the year to gift to my loyal readers, I teamed up with Jord watches to have two people to win $100.00 and one $25.00 code towards a watch of their choice. You can enter below starting today with the give away ending on March 12,2017.
Me waiting for you to enter the give away 😂👀
What are your thoughts ? Am I not given every reason to watch crush Wednesday (just made that up 😝😂) this brand?
Enter the give away HERE!
Watch: sponsored by Jord Watches
Luxury Wooden Watch
Damn near had a blizzard for the first day of New York Fashion Week. Typically one would look outside and think “stay in”, but nope Fashion week is work for me so the show must continue. And it did. All 8,000 shows. OK, fine more like 5 0r 6, but it sure felt like a whole lot took place within a short time. Despite the slush, disrespectful wind and wet feet, It feels good to be back doing what I love. Thankfully I dropped these sneakers in my suitcase. I pretty much worked the outfit around it. Outside was too gray and slush to do all neutrals. You know I can’t just settle for all dark colors!
let’s get into this vintage 1951 Parka though……so damn good. I’m always here for an over sized men’s coat. MAC Cyber lipstick for a little badassery (and because a bright lip would be a distraction) Ok, off I go to tackle day 2. First show is at 10:00 am. My cold and allergy is saying rest(the devil) and my working brain is like “You left your family,came here to sleep in?!”
Working brain for the win. Follow my Instagram stories for all show coverage!
Vintage Parka, denim Polo shirt, Men’s wool pants from Bobby From Boston
Sneakers: Kith NYC
Vintage purse, vintage motor vest(old)
Situation: 16 and pregnant
Mom: you can still have anything you want
Me: 🤔 Bet…
I say it’s not the size of the team, but instead the character of the teammate. “You can still have anything you want” is a comment that comes to mind every time I’m met with uncertainty, doubt, fear and mind-blowing opportunities. Being 16 and pregnant is no bleeping joke as you can imagine. Shit gets real, real fast too. Decisions have to be made though. “Roll over, fold and die with self-pity?” Or “Face this shit and make the best out of a bad decision?”
Clearly I picked facing this shit. A degree, business, marriage and two kids later I look back and revisit that moment often. It’s a reminder that half the shit I face and stress about didn’t and doesn’t even compare to the biggest hurdles I’ve overcome. My….. those 7 words was my invitation, boarding pass and constant motivation I ever needed and will probably ever need after God. Imagine if it was the opposite reaction and I got a verbal beating? Ha! I wouldn’t have been the same. Even confident folks need love. One Woman poured into me and it made all the difference.
1) Keep in mind who you keep as company
2) We all need a little boost and love
3) It’s not how many people you have it’s the amount of love.
4) If you don’t have a cheerleader be your own
5 Be mindful of what you project and say because words have power.
oh and before I hit “Post”
6) Don’t find self love or confidence as a threat. You never know what that person overcame to reach this point. Just ask.
Yeah all of that and kick some ass today. Be a genuine cheerleader if needed.
Do you have a memorable moment that still carries you through? Or a person ?