Author: vanavain

Get it from her Momma!

Hahahaha what  a stupid title, but what am I gonna do leave it blank?  I mean this dress deserves some sort of acknowledgement here.Anyways.  I wore this dress last week to attend South N The City picnic on Governors Island.  As usual I don’t plan my outfits  in advance, so the night before my flight packing got a little something like ” Love the color”, “Less Print” , This could be good incase I find somewhere to go!”.  Nothing set in stone because again dressing is about showing or highlighting an emotion and mood.  There is not telling with me how I’ll feel or what mood I’m in. I purchased this dress from my mothers closet last week while she was getting rid of pieces she wasn’t attached to anymore or the fit was bad.  Message: Declutter Declutter your closets! So on my way to the airport I noticed that this dress was sitting in the back seat and not packed in my carry on which at that point had no room for not even …

Late bloomers… still bloom

Lately I’ve had a lot of conversations with other creatives and seen posts about organic growth and followers(mostly pertaining to Instagram). I see a lot of creatives losing hope due to the lack of numbers and following. I can relate that it’s annoying when you are putting in work but it seems like nothing is working. I’ve had that experience in my craft, in my personal life and it always ended up working out once I changed the mindset and energy .As I mentioned in “Late Bloomer” , I started most things in life later than most or what society says due to being a Mother early. That alone makes me ok to not have what others have or getting there at the same time. It taught me that a different or longer route isn’t a bad thing. Blessings,  like a maze will still find a way/you. Being frustrated about opportunities and numbers or goals is normal.  I think all those feelings are growing pains and the deeper issue and question is “what more can …

No.

I hope you all enjoyed your weekend that I kept calling a  long weekend. This whole fourth of July holiday got me messed up, but really any day off is a good day to reflect, reboot and attack my to do list. Lately my to do list has had a lot of “No’s”incorporated  in it. As I’ve grown as and individual and as a businesswomen I’ve been having to say no more often. I’m a people person and love having those around me be happy. If I can help you better believe that I’ll try. In life and in business that doesn’t seem to always work especially if someone’s happiness will cost me my sanity, health, time and sometimes money. Sometimes No just means “I can’t afford to disappoint you”. If I agree to something that   I know requires time, effort and planning yet I don’t charge my worth or anything at all the outcome will most likely be mediocre or bad and lead to disappointment. Both myself, the brand and or the person …

Unapologetically Ambitious 

I came across a post a few weeks ago that had the words “overly ambitious” in it. It was thought provoking for me for many reasons. Since a kid I’ve been told that I’m too confident, too ambitious and received stares  that pretty much said “what the fuck are you so excited about?!” (I still get them) Ambition and optimism is what has kept me daydreaming as a kid believing that I would be the best dressed lawyer(settled for a associates in Criminal Justice). It’s what I use when I don’t get it right the first 20 times. It keeps me curious and fired up to try again. I don’t have a sobby story for why I had to be this way, just trates from my Mother and Grandfather I guess. When they said they wanted something it was done and was never afraid of messing up. See the thing is compliments and achievements are cool, but it’s our attitudes and mental state that really determines if we get there. If we can’t envision it, …

Start where ya at!

With what and who you have… A Facebook reminder this morning showed me a picture of when I used to take my own photographs. It was lit! I had fun. It wasn’t always perfect but I made the best of all 200 pics lol. I purchased the camera 2 years prior while still at a 9-5. I rolled my eyes every time I walked in, but I was strategic about how one fed the other. My PTO was used to attend New York Fashion Week and to leave early for vending gigs. My thought was “If I’m going to be here why not use what I’m getting to pour into my business?!” It made coming to work a piece of the puzzle and not the end. Sometimes we wait for the perfect time, job, money etc before we start charging towards our goals, but it’s damaging more than anything. If you’ve always wanted to blog start now! Download WordPress on your phone and blog through there if a laptop isn’t available. Always wanted to get …

Boston Calling Recap

Happy Tuesday I mean Wednesday 😩😩 This short week got me all messed up. Anywho let’s take it back to last Friday when Mother Nature had all sorts of mood swings and couldn’t decide if we behaved enough for some sunshine or better yet a dry day. She went left and killed us with rain, but who cares when you get to See Chance The Rapper?!!!! Like his performance was chill giving, soul filled and thought provoking. Like I never cared for another performer like this  besides Beres Hammond.  The kid is going to be a legend. How many rappers ask “How many of y’all want to go to heaven ?” And ask twice because “some of y’all didn’t answer truthfully” that’s dope! Grown Men were in the crown harmonizing with Chance and his group word. For. Word.  This performance was so on time for me for so many reasons. One because I’ve been working not stop for like two months straight and needed some self care time. Second because as I’m in transition phases …

Just chill

Yesterday was Day 2 of Boston Calling and it was a super chill day and the vibes were good. I’m certain that Mother Nature bringing us sun was one of the reasons. Barely any room to walk, I tip toed and zigzagged around napping, laying and eating folks on the ground. A good problem to have seeing that the day before laying down wasn’t even an option.  I set out to capture some street style, ask questions and head out, but I ended up having genuine and purposeful convos with folks and made that priority over exchanging an IG or email. Of course that was done once or twice, but the point is sometimes you set out for one thing and end up getting something totally left and heart filling at that.  I’d like to speak for everyone there and say that we were being medicated. Music does something to the soul that indescribable and only a music lover can non verbally understand. In theses last two days, not once was there a fight or …

Boston Calling  Street style

Can I just say  that yesterday was like the best day ever?! The best. I had never been to Boston Calling until they this year. I was absolutely bummed that Solange didn’t make it , but there was so much more to look forward to and boy was it lit! I will go deeper into the performers in my personal style post. What I love the most is that the festival is three days and you can buy tickets separately for each day…. even at the gate! 🙌🏾🙌🏾  You know I couldn’t  attend without covering fashion. So yesterday felt like New York Fashion Week again with me approaching people to ask permission to take their pics.  Everyone was so sweet and agreed….Dope vibe dope style. It lives here in Boston …👇🏾 Loved this bomber and how she effortlessly layed the cross body bag. @sal.florentina Yes to all of these colors and the pigtail bun. @shell.yahHow cute is this Coachella Mami @JamieptranIn Living color @flwrsandfernsShe came to slay and stay dry! @juliaathy🦄 eyesCool kid.“I’m from New York” 😎 …

Gingham Mami- all the must buys!

I heard gingham is “trending” aka they pulled it out the classic archives. Here’s the thing… it’s at least the 5th or 6th time it’s been re-trending since I was like 8/9 years old. How do I remember ? Because my aunt who was my fashion icon had a beautiful flowy  gingham red dress that was off the shoulder. That was my intro to gingham and since then have been a fave. BUT let’s talk about quality because some prints are just plain ugly and very cheap looking. Here’s my aunt in “94”with the dress!! She just sent it.(I never forget a dope outfit!) I love you toooo  much to let you go and  pick up just any kind so I picked a few faves that are classic and will live past the “trend season”. When you shop with a purpose there is no going out of style. These two pics are styled by me from an event I had with Shake Shack Newbury called “Shakes & Silhouettes” last month.   *pic credentials on IG* …

Tunnel Vision 

“My momma told me boy make a decision right now I gotta keep a tunnel vision”~ Kodak Black The goal is to do it all at the same damn time. Says the princess in the fairytale being fed grapes with her foot up with no kids lol. When I’m killing it in one area another area is neglected at least a little bit. I have been booked with styling gigs and had to pick my head back up to touch up on other things in life. Like the gym, gaining weight(yes because my butt is getting small from working a lot and not eating enough.) “I like nice curves and I cannot lie”😂😂👌🏾🙌🏾😀 When I think of tunnel vision I think about my college days when I was working a full time job and getting good grades and starting a side business. Those days remind me that I got comfortable because I can do wayyy more with a little more planning and focus. We need a reminder sometimes.So anywho I’ve been thinking about tunnel vision …