Month: January 2017

Cheerleaders

Situation: 16 and pregnant Location: Kitchen Mom: you can still have anything you want Me: 🤔 Bet… I say it’s not the size of the team, but instead the character of the teammate. “You can still have anything you want” is a comment that comes to mind every time I’m met with uncertainty, doubt, fear and mind-blowing opportunities. Being 16 and pregnant is no bleeping joke as you can imagine. Shit gets real, real fast too. Decisions have to be made though. “Roll over, fold and die with self-pity?” Or “Face this shit and make the best out of a bad decision?” Clearly I picked facing this shit. A degree, business, marriage and two kids later I look back and revisit that moment often.  It’s a reminder that half the shit I face and stress about didn’t and doesn’t  even compare to the biggest hurdles I’ve overcome. My….. those 7 words was my invitation, boarding pass and constant motivation I ever needed and will probably ever need after God. Imagine if it was the opposite …

Thank you….maybe

You ever give a compliment to someone and their reaction/response or lack there of had you rethinking where you went wrong? Like “No not your social security number or address…..your blouse girl your blouse! it’s cute”. I’m hella friendly, severely talkative and a compliment giver since a kid.  I remember being in Kings Plaza Mall as a kid and my mother literally pulling me behind her  with my sister giving me that “Shut Up!” stare as I try to finish a conversation and a compliment. Compliments do more for me than me trying to do for the person. I realize they make it about someone else for that time and not us or whatever problems we could be facing. So whether I get a response I like or not I’m still gonna dish out genuine compliments. “You get a compliment! You get a compliment! *Oprah’s voice and hand gesture*. No but seriously I’ve learned for some it goes back to upbringing and personality. I’ve met people who expressed that their lack of confidence made it …